The Secret to an
Have you ever wondered,
"Ugh, why does he do that?!"
What if he really isn't all that bad, but you just don't understand why he acts the way he does, especially because it hurts so much?
What if he cares more than you think, but he shows it in a way that makes sense to him, but not to you?
What if you move towards him and he pushes away, but it's not for the reason you think?
Understanding your way of wanting to connect versus his way of being able to connect (and vice versa) can open your eyes to what's really going on. It only takes one partner to begin changing the dynamics of the relationship for the relationship to have the potential for change.
Just because your partner doesn't act the way you think he should, doesn't necessarily mean he's a jerk - there just might be something else going on. Something important
you should know!
Does this feel familiar?
Do you often have fear of being rejected or abandoned?
You're afraid you're not good enough?
You try to get close, but he just pushes away?
You often feel unlovable? Unworthy?
That it's hard to find anything good to say about yourself?
Do you look to your partner for validation and reassurance?
Do you want to be close to your partner, but fear being taken advantage of?
What if I told you there is a very specific reason you feel this way.
What if I told you that maybe your partner is not the jerk you might think he is?
What if I told you understanding his behavior creates an opportunity for the relationship to flourish?
There's a very specific reason why you may feel uncomfortable in your relationship. It may feel like your partner is treating you differently than he used to. It may have been wonderful in the beginning and then at some point, things changed. Maybe he started drifting away and you started having uncomfortable feelings about what that meant and whether or not he still wanted to be in a relationship with you.
I spent decades going through this myself, and searching and seeking to try and find out my partner and I were constantly at odds. I've spent countless hours on the therapy couch, attended numerous workshops, and read tons of self-help books, and nothing seemed solve my problem. So I kept searching.
What I discovered was eye-opening and enlightening. There are certain things that occur in our lives that may create uncomfortable patterns for us. For example:
*Some of us feel angry at our partner much of the time, either quietly on the inside, or ready for a fight, either verbally or physically.
*Some of us feel unworthy, uncertain, or unlovable, but feel if our partner would reassure us, we'd feel so much better... but why won't he?
*Others of us feel confused, lost, and don't know which way to go, feeling shut down and paralyzed, wishing our partner would just come wrap their arms around us and make everything ok again, but he acts like he thinks we're crazy, and that just makes the pain even greater.
*Others of us find that we feel better if we busy ourselves taking care of our partner, spending too much time worrying about what he's doing, why he didn't answer our text immediately, and wondering if he'll leave us.
Look, it's not your fault you feel the way you do!
Like I said, I learned there is a very specific and clear-cut reason for these behaviors and I want you to know what it is, where it came from, the purpose it served, and why it is no longer needed. Then I'll show you how to dissolve it.
People say you can't change the past, but they forgot to mention you can change your future. I know you can do it, because I've done it. I know there are certain steps and skills that you need so that the emotional discomfort can go away.
It starts with this:
A strong desire to dissolve the emotional pain.
Dissolving the emotional pain means understanding why is it there in the first place. Understanding why it's there is understanding what is stopping you from having that amazing relationship you so desire.
Are you ready to understand what's going on?
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