Hello Beautiful Ones,
Hate-Bonding .... what is this?
I don't know about you, but I've been the victim of "hate-bonding" more times then I care to remember. Hate-bonding is when 2 or more people decide that there is something about you that they hate, and they bond together to make fun of you in order to have themselves feel better about who they are. I'm sure you've felt this feeling before. It's upsetting, painful, and downright miserable. For me it lowered my self-esteem, I have feelings of depression and sadness, I questioned myself, I started eating more to numb out, and I really wondered if there was something wrong with me.
Until..... I began to learn my value.
Once I began to truly understand myself (living from the inside out), who I am, what I'm doing, why I'm here, what difference I'm trying to make in the world, and quit living from the outside in (letting others decide my worth), I began to realize that these types of people have a lot of problems and are using others to make themselves feel better because they don’t know how to do it themselves. Even though it’s hard to do sometimes especially when they are acting in that way, I find that now I actually feel sorry for them.
My wish for you, Lovlies, is to discover the value, the beautiful, unmitigated *value* that is inside of each and every one of you so that when someone calls you names, acts nasty towards you or otherwise makes fun of you, that you remember …. It’s not you, it’s them. They have a problem. Hate-bonding is what keeps them together but it’s not true friendship. You are the strong one. Rise Above, go find yourself someone to Love-Bond with
Huge hugs and big love,